Monday, November 24, 2008

6 Weeks


It's been no joke that I have been living under some sort of rock as of late. There is actually a rock where all new moms hang out for the first 6 weeks. It's called "postpartum rock" and we all live under it together. :o)

No, really. We have been busy over here growing a Charlie.

All the books were right when they said that the peak of difficulty, fussiness and overall newborn madness was at 6 weeks. But, they were also right when they said that it would all get better from that point as well. We are finally in a real groove here. And it feels good.

The first 6 weeks are (or they were!) a real challenge. I am not kidding you. We are talking some hard shit. Sorry, but I just had to say it. I told Curtis that I feel like I am trying to solve the biggest puzzle of my entire life. Sometimes I get it right, sometimes I get it wrong and sometimes there isn't an answer at all. Sleep logs, piles of books, stroller rides, wishing with all your might...none of it is guaranteed to work. You can try heating pads in the crib, and white noise, and rocking and shushing until your tongue goes numb. You can drive circles around the city to get him to nap....praying that the lights stay green. None of it will work all the time. But, after awhile you figure out what does work. And you might try all of the tricks in your bag until you finally get it right. And when you do....when you see your baby on the video monitor, sound asleep, you scream in your head "SUCCESS!! YESSSSSSSSSSSS!! I DID IT!" And it's the best thing that has happened to you all day. That is what it's like to be a new mom in the first 6 weeks.

Last week, I actually asked Curtis if I could go back to work early. It had gotten that difficult for me. I couldn't stand the sound of Charlie's cry. And he was crying and fussing a lot. It wasn't colic, but he sure is a bit of a fussy boy. He's not the portable, easy-going type. Yet. He likes to be held. He likes me to shush him until my tongue goes numb. He likes attention. I read in a book the other day where a woman said that her son was just too interested "in all the living that was going on." That's Charlie. And he makes his presence known when he isn't happy. He has a set of lungs that could blow trees over, I tell you!! It's that set of lungs, that finally got us into shape over here. You see, I finally (with the help of my sister and a friend) realized that I needed to let this kid exercise those lungs without a whole lot of guilt behind it. Just to see what might happen. Well, what happened has been miraculous. For the last week or so, Charlie has been sleeping in his crib, sleeping longer periods (he even naps now!), nursing like a champ (and he isn't attached to my boob 24/7 anymore! See, I am typing!!), and overall his demeanor has taken a turn for the better. Is it being over the 6 week hump? Or just a Mom and Dad that finally figured it out? :o)

Along with these challenges comes a whole lot of joy too. Every day that I get to wake up and stare into those baby blues is a day that I look forward too. This child has been a wonderful gift that we are forever thankful for. In fact, it's kind of funny how the joy outweighs the challenges. You sort of forget that you may have had a bad night, or that you are frustrated, or that you want to sleep SO BAD. It's true. A smile from a 6-week old can wipe away any memory of a sleepless night. I know, because it happened to me this morning. :o)

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For updated photos:

Charlie

10 comments:

apt said...

Congrats on finishing mommy boot camp, Em and Curtis. Now you've got the skills for the rest of the mission.
Augh - gotta go, Henry is wailing (we're only in the 5th week here ;))

Amanda said...

Love that pic, it is so precious! Glad things are getting easier!

This is us: said...

That smile first thing in the morning after a rough night truly is magical! I'm glad things are getting better :-)

The TX Millers said...

I felt guilty when i heard him cry too, but now, i realize that he is just talking to me the only way he knows how...really loud, lol. Congrats momma, you are doing great!

Elizabeth said...

What a beautiful post. I am happy that Charilie is gettin in his groove! Love you.
BC

Mia said...

We are nowhere near 6 weeks (2.5 weeks over here)but you really did sum up the new motherhood experience.

Erin said...

aww em that is so beautiful.... they are amazing arent they!

Jenn ~ Rainah's Mama said...

Crazy stuff, huh? Sounds like you're doing great. Keep it up, mama!

Christina said...

He is too adorable and you look great! Way to hang in there and totally agree that a smile makes you forget EVERYTHING!

Liz said...

So TRUE! I hope you had a great T-giving and we have so much to be thankful for. It only gets easier Em, I promise, coming from one 1st time fussy child mom to another. Enjoy every moment.
XOXOOX